How bad relationships can make you broke
Can a bad relationship keep you broke? Absolutely! And this is either by under earning or over spending, or even both!
Here are signs your relationship is keeping you broke
If you're in a relationship that erodes your self esteem, makes you feel devalued, creates self doubt & messes with your confidence, this can cause you to be broke! You need your confidence to work, self doubt will keep you from succeeding. So many women struggle with the questions like am I valuable? May be because of the way they are being treated in their relationship or they have been told they are not good enough and so they become less present at work. Self doubt will hold you back!
If you are in a relationship where you are codependent, or with a narcissistic person, or someone you cannot trust, it drains your energy! You're wondering what he doing at the moment, is he cheating again? who can I reach out to check what he is doing ...as a result, You're not sleeping well, you cannot think! You use up all your energy , you're not able to develop anything, You have great ideas but that's all they are - Ideas! I have seen women owned businesses die off because the woman is going through relationship drama! she is not responsive to her customers, she lacks the zeal to open up in the morning because she is exhausted. This energy drain will lead to under earning and low performance at work. This can also happen when you have a needy partner.
You hold yourself back. This is basically not allowing yourself become who God created you to be because you are worried your partner may not approve. You're afraid of compliments, you're afraid of asking for a pay rise because it could mean you start to earn higher than your partner. You hold yourself back from being your very best and sometimes this can be unconscious. A lot of women have been told that as a woman if you make money, your partner will reject you and so they start to self sabotage and opt out of greatness . You play small so your partner doesn't feel inferior. This will cause you to stay broke.
Wounded state. This happens typically when a woman has been through a bad relationship, They get into a wounded state either wounded masculine or wounded feminine . In the wound masculine, they become aggressive and bitter, they are quick to snap and no organization wants to work with someone like that. This will impact your sales, impact your income, you may be a good performer at work but you may not rise because people don't want to work with you. You become difficult to deal with and that could also be why its difficult to get into another relationship. In the wounded feminine you become disempowered and you play victim all the time. You have gone through something difficult but its your responsibility to heal if not you start to read things through the lens of woundedness.
On over spending,
Buying to self soothe! People respond differently to difficult situations and one of the ways is they binge - this may not necessarily mean eating, It could be excessive shopping - bags or clothes or shoes. but generally buying things you don't need at that moment just to feel better even when its above your budget. This is an example of overspending and can cause you to go broke. If this happens, don't beat yourself up, recognize it and plan to do better going forward. You need to address the emotion that let to that so that you can heal.
I did a full session on this - ways you can handle it and step into your womanhood. Watch the full video on How a toxic relationship can keep you broke. on Facebook. Watch it here.
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